In the Long Run

A series of reports on rude behavior in the United States recently aired on the news. It seems that more and more people are legitimately worthy of the designation “ugly Americans.” Many have become insensitive, impolite, and uncharitable. They speak harshly and coarsely, and refuse to help people in need. Such behavior stems from selfishness, of thinking more of oneself than of others.

Parents often teach children what they call “the magic words”—such courtesies as saying “please” and “thank you.” Perhaps we should bluntly call them what they really are: the polite words. They should not be considered as a trick or a ploy to acquire something, nor should they be coerced. These words can and should be taught by example, so that they are automatically, and genuinely, elicited because of one’s respect and regard for others.

Speaking more kindly and gently will naturally evolve into behaving more charitably and generously. People who focus less on themselves, and more on what they can do to make others lives more enjoyable, usually end up happier and more satisfied as well. These actions are more than simple good manners. They are special gifts of kindness.

“And let every man esteem his brother as himself, and practice virtue and holiness before me. And again I say unto you, let every man esteem his brother as himself.” (Doctrine and Covenants 38:24-25) If we are as concerned with other people’s welfare as much as we are our own, we will find it much easier to be polite, kind, and sensitive. We will be able to easily practice “The Golden Rule” as found in the scriptures: “And as ye would that men should do to you, do ye also to them likewise.” (Luke 6:31)

As the hustle and bustle of the Christmas season engulfs us, let us look to the Savior’s example of courtesy and charity, and emulate Him. Let us smile more and complain less. Let us ask politely when we need something, thank the stranger who holds open a door, stop to help the person who is struggling. Let us ask how our friends are doing, and then truly listen, and respond to their needs. Let us show our families through our words and deeds just how much we love them. Let kindness be our gift to all this Christmas season.

Posted by Cyppy at 10:00 PM